Mother’s Day, My Shifting Perspective.

Mother’s Day can be beautiful—and it can also be complicated. For many, it isn’t a celebration at all: it can bring grief, estrangement, infertility or loss, and the ache of a mother relationship that was never safe. If this season feels tender for you, I just want to say: I see you, and you’re allowed to protect your peace.

In my newest Sunflowers episode, I share how my relationship with Mother’s Day has shifted in phases: from obligation and duty, to becoming a mom and building the warmth and symbolism I didn’t grow up with, to the season I’m in now—wanting to be celebrated and fully seen, not only as a mother, but as a woman who has done brave, legacy-changing work. It’s a reminder that gratitude and grief can live in the same hand.

If you’re not sure what to say today, try something gentler than “Happy Mother’s Day”: “I’m thinking of you,” “I’m holding space for you,” or “I hope today is gentle.” And if you’re a mom who’s doing the work—showing up, repairing, breaking cycles—please name three brave things you’ve done this year and let them count. If this resonates, I’d love to hear: what’s one small way you’re honoring your truth this week?